This week, we have three quotes. You can respond
to whichever one strikes your fancy. All three have to do with the notion of
civility and character. Ponder whichever one stands out to you—then write.
1. Benjamin Franklin said, "Be
civil to all, sociable to many, familiar with few, friend to one, enemy to
none." (“civil” here means courteous or polite)
2. Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows you who
they are, believe them the first time.”
3. C.S. Lewis said, "We hear a great deal
about the rudeness of the rising generation. I am an oldster myself and might
be expected to take the oldsters' side, but in fact I have been far more
impressed by the bad manners of parents to children than by those of children
to parents."
I tend to sometimes judge people before I even met them, I try my best to get to know the person but I’m usually the one that judges before meeting the actual person. Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. And I think that’s what Maya Angelou meant when writing this quote I think as society grows we grow with it and we tend to listen to what society wants us to hear. And I believe that as society plays a big part in what we believe and see around us, as ridiculous as a story might sound always believe in the story of an individual we all live different life’s and we tend to cope with our issues very differently. So believing in a person’s word today means nothing nor a promise its simply just words that people tend not to believe no more only because society wants us to believe what it says to us and we tend to listen. Maya Angelou referring to believing people the first time is something that a lot of people have trouble getting used to because at one point in your life we have all told a lie, not necessarily just because they tell a simple lie doesn’t mean they are liars or that we cannot believe in anything they say. The point I’m trying to makes is that everyone deserves a second chance and we all should be a little bit more open and a little bit more generous with others that aren’t what you think give everyone a chance and you’ll see how easier life really is.
ReplyDeleteHi Joaquin, I agree with giving people second chances! There is no perfect individual in this life, but every day is a new day and we can always strive to be a better person.
DeleteJose, yes we tend to live and listen to what society tells us and sometimes that's a bad thing because we rely on it too much and not all the time are they right.
DeleteEmily, yes always believe in yourself and always believe that people can change and that they deserve second chances.
DeleteI agree with you completely Joaquin. I believe before we even meet someone, we already have the impression of who and how they are. I believe getting to really know a person before judging is important.
DeleteChristian yes we tend to do that a lot you'll be lying if you say that you've never done that judge someone before you know them we've all done it.
DeleteThe first quote by Ben Frank is my favorite. I believe it's so important that we as humans must be polite and courteous to all people. By doing so, you will be treated fairly with respect. It is also so easy for us these days to have enemies. Ben says to have no enemies and this is very true. When people have enemies it creates a bad attitude in peoples mind. Then, they are more likely to be negative and unhappy. There is so much in the first quote by Franklin if you just sit and think about what he is trying to get through to his readers. This is why I love it.
ReplyDeleteHi Jason, I agree that have enemies only creates a bad temper and leads to an unhappy and not peaceful life.
DeleteJason, I slo really like the first quote and your point on enemies. I believe having enemies generates hate and negativity in our everyday life. I also really like the part where ben says, "friend to one." I don't think he is saying you should only have one friend, but instead I believe he is saying friendship is so special you should treat that person with love and kindness as if they are your only friend.
DeleteJason,
DeleteI do agree that Benjamin Franklin’s quote is a really good quote. This is because being courteous and polite to everyone, is a key element of character. If you are courteous and polite, other people will treat you with justice and will show you respect. The sociable part briefly means that, a person should be diplomatic. Being familiar with few, means that there are a few people you can trust. Being a friend to one person means that, you should be a friend to the person who is truly helping/saving you. You were also right about being an enemy to none. People who have enemies tend to get into disputes, create negative thoughts, encounter negative feelings, do wrong actions, form bad habits, develop the negative part of their character, and tend to ruin their health. Forming happy, peaceful, and calm thoughts, feelings, actions, habits, and characters makes a person very healthy. Ben Franklin pretty much did his best, in coming up with true quotes and inventions. I think he tried to influence and inspire a lot of people from his time period, to future generations. You wrote a good post, because you came up with a lot of true information. You also interpreted Franklin’s quote correctly.
Roshaan S.
I too choose this quote. It says so much in just one sentence. I agree that we should treat others fairly and with kindness. Also, it isn't smart to make enemies of others as it only impacts our personal emotions and lives negatively.
DeleteI find quote three by C.S Lewis most interesting especially with everything going on in todays world. I constantly hear and read how awful millennials are. Sure, I agree, some people my age are pretty terrible, but that goes for all generations. To put all the blame on us is silly. Shouldn't the generation before us (our parents) get some of the blame too? Now, that is a little besides the point. I think instead of constantly putting down the generation after us, we should build them up and look inward. If we focus on ourselves and treat others the way we want to be treated, we could have quite the change. I think people tend to react from how we are treated. If we are treated badly, we will react negatively back. Each generation must teach the generation ahead to be kind and have good manners. The best way to do that is to lead by example. We need to stop complaining about others and make a change in ourselves.
ReplyDeleteI do agree with you. Let’s stop blaming others for our actions. We should focus on ourselves, on how to become better persons. We should treat people better than how we want others to treat us.
DeleteI agree with as well Blair because I do believe the younger generation now is completely different from the generation before. I don't believe it is necessarily one thing at fault in particular, but it is true that the first step is in improving ourselves.
DeleteBlair,
DeleteYou are right, if we would focus on treating others better perhaps it will make things a bit different, it will even change our perception on how we look at other generations and how other generations look at us.
Joseph,
DeleteYou wrote a very good response. This is because you interpreted C. S. Lewis’s quote correctly, even though it seemed a little bit difficult to understand. It is true that some of the millennial people are ending up in worse situations, compared to the Baby Boomers, Generation X people, and the Traditionalists (Silent Generation people). Some of the millennial people are so engrossed in electronics, food, and certain internal/external social influences. You were also right that parents are also influencing their millennial children. I noticed that every generation in the future, and the millennial generation need to be built and rebuilt properly. I think the millennial, centennial, and Generation X people should focus on being peaceful, polite, content, and responsible. They should also make sure that, they are caring for other people and the environments in which they live in. These people should make sure they practice their values, and not just preach about them to other people (whether the values are in writing or speech). Overall, you wrote a really nice response to the question.
Roshaan S.
The first quote by Benjamin Franklin stands out to me. Every word is true about this quote. Be polite and courteous to one another, because that is same respect we want back from others. It is not bad to socialize with people, but careful with the people you choose as friends. It is not good to have a lot of friends, because sometimes in life we come across individuals that say they are your friend, but they do not mean it. Some call friends walk away from your life, can betray you, or are not there when you need them. But even if these friends turn against your back, it is not good to become enemy with any of them. It is not worth having enemies, because you do not win anything from that. It just creates anger towards other individuals, and that is not a happy life. I believe treat a person the way you want to be treated, and do not be enemy of others, because it only leads to evil.
ReplyDeleteEmily, good choice of quote and you points make a lot of sense if you respect you have to give it to get that respect, also like I mentioned it previously social media has a lot to do with how others treat each other.
DeleteHi Emily,
DeleteI agree with you. It is important to treat someone with the same respect you would like to be treated with. Also, having anger in your heart can poison your whole life. It is better to not have enemies and a few close friends.
Yes Joaquin I agree that social media has a lot to do with it too.
DeleteAlma, I agree that anger can poison your life.
DeleteHi Jose, I also see sometimes people changing their personality. Maybe it has to do with the friends they choose to be around, or social media encouraging them to be something they are not.
ReplyDeleteThe quote that stood out to me the most would be Maya Angelou’s. I actually disagree with her because when we meet someone, we want to behave a certain way. That person can think that you are the politest person and a very shy one when in reality, you’re completely the opposite. After some time, that person starts to change the way they were because they were faking and want to be their true selves now. That’s why when people say, be who you are, they mean it. You want to show the new person who you are in the beginning so they know what time of person you are. A lot of problems in relationships and friendships happen because that person was faking the way they were. You could’ve thought that the person had so much in common with you, but they actually just faked it all to be your friend. I actually do try to act like myself when I meet a new person. I show my manners and politeness so they know what time of person I am. I like to know since the beginning who is my friend and not someone who is faking to be someone. A good place to meet people who tend to be who they truly are, is in class. The classmates that you talk to only in class. They tend to talk about other classes, how they feel about them, and even give you tips on your future classes that they might have taken. Eventually, that friendship becomes outside of class and you were able to learn since the beginning who that person was.
ReplyDeleteBianca, if you think about it when you first meet a person they cant show you who they really are. After they show you who they really are they cant change that; they may show you who they really are at a different time it doesn't necessarily have to be when you first meet them.
DeleteI thought the same thing too, Bianca, but I see where Neida is coming from.
DeleteWell, I do believe that when you first meet someone, you start making your belief based on attitudes. And as time goes by, you can confirm, or adapt your opinion. It’s simple.
DeleteNeida, you are right, but that's why someone should always be the way they want others to see them.
DeleteMarisol, yes you're right.
DeleteBianca, I agree with you. I do believe that people may not be their authentic selves when first meeting. Various factors impact different situations. But, looking at the quote from a different perspective, I agree with Maya Angelou. If in her quote she means when someone shows you their true selves-whether that be at the first meeting, or a year after meeting- we should believe them. Some people put up smoke screens and eventually their "true selves" come out. That's when we should believe that's who they really are and take needed measures to either create distance and/or build on the relationship.
DeleteJose, I also feel like people start changing at some point. I think maybe because they got so comfortable with you that they can really be themselves now.
ReplyDeleteThe quote from Maya Angelou is the one I feel relates to my life most. I agree with her because a lot of the time you get to know a person and you form an opinion from how they act around you the first couple times. This impression is hopefully a good one, and in my opinion, the most important one. I think the key word she uses is 'show' because that is what really matters when getting to know a person. Someone could repeatedly tell you who they are but words do not matter if their actions contradict them. From personal experience, the beginning of a relationship or friendship is very honest and you see the real person. As time goes on we try to question people's character, which causes problems, when we already saw their true personality early on. I admit, I always like to see the good in people, but I also know I am a good judge of character, and you learn a lot about a person from the first few times being around them.
ReplyDeleteJade, you just say it: “you learn a lot about a person from the first few times being around them.” See? You are giving them a few times to show you who they are. I think that we cannot base our opinions at first sight. If a person acts careless, rude, or aggressive, let’s give them another chance. We never know what they are going through at that moment.
DeleteThe quote, "“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time," strikes me as the most interesting. I think it is human nature to meet someone and want them to be the person you want them to be, instead of who they actually are. When someone shows us who they are and we don't necessarily like everything about them, we tend to try to change them. This brings a lot of issues into friendships and relationships. Its as if we keep holding on because we have an imaginary vision of who we want them to be, when in reality they can never be that person. I think this quote speaks so much truth and could save someone's emotional health later down the road. This quote teaches us that once we see someone's true colors, we should either accept and love them, or move on.
ReplyDeleteI agree, this is a quote that speaks the truth. People tend to picture what that person could be but don't focus on who that person really is.
DeleteI agree with you Kaci. I believe that people do make a lasting first impression, but you cant really judge until you really get to to know them.
DeleteHi Kaci,
DeleteI think this was an interesting interpretation of this quote, and very accurate. It takes a lot to see someone for who they really are, and I think we try to rationalize and "bend" the rules for people that we want to like so much. It's important not to be blinded by our perceptions.
The quote that stands out the most to me is the one by Maya Angelou. From my understand, I think she is trying to say that once a person shows who they really are its when you should believe they are like; that can be at any point not just when you first meet them. It stands out the most to me because I agree that when someone shows their true colors we should believe them at first. People cant change who they are nor can a person change another if they are not willing to change themselves. A person character will show from the first time they actually show who they are. I agree in the beginning everyone doesn't show who they are but they are not showing you who they are at that point. Once they show who they really are that's when a person should believe that it's how that person really is. There's a story behind each individual and not all will show who they really are to all people but, once they do its when you can't blind yourself in believing they are something they are not.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree not all people show who they really are until times goes by. In the beginning there are people that try to impress the other person so they aren't really being themselves until they start to feel comfortable.
DeleteHi Neida,
DeleteI like your point of view on the quote. It is true, so many people know that the first impression is important and many do not show their true colors. I lean more towards believing who they are when they do something bad towards you. That is when we must believe them to avoid getting hurt in the future.
Neida,
DeleteI totally agree with you, it goes both ways though, some people will show you their true colors within the first you meet while others will pretend to be something they are not and then you later find out who they really are.
Hey Neida. I always thought the Maya Angelou's quote targeted first impressions but upon reading your answer I realized your perspective strikes very true. Regardless of how hard a person tries to portray themself a certain way, once their true colors are shown the very first time you should always believe it, right?
Delete"Be civil to all, sociable to many, familiar with few, friend to one, enemy to none."
ReplyDeleteI am a huge admirer of Benjamin Franklin, and have been for a long time. So it's only natural I feel compelled to choose his quote. In saying that, they are sound words to live by, and life presents far less complications and/or problems, e.g. drama, drama, and more drama.
To be honest, almost following Ben's quote to a 'T', that is how I with my life.
I moved to the Kern River Valley from the Midwest almost seven years ago, and it's nice to walk into the Vons, or a locally owned business, and receive a "Hi, Scott!!", sometimes followed with a "How's the knee, buddy!?", or "How's things at CSUB?," or some other semi-personal question making this place feel all the more like home. The knee question comes from when I blew it out last August, being seen in a wheelchair, crutches, and brace as I progressed with the healing process. Long and short, it makes a stranger from a strange land not feel so strange, or so far away from what used to be home.
Though I am social publically, it does not carry over into my private life. For the most part, I'm very private, I do not have visitors very often and it is for the sake of maintaining distance, separation, and privacy, so that I am familiar with few. I'm friendly and have friends/acquaintances to varying degrees, but only two that are friend enough to share and discuss personal family/issues/crisis/etc. I am friendly and a peacemaker by nature, so I have no enemies. If I am an enemy of someone, first I ask why, but have no problem extending the olive branch in peace. Life's too short for petty squabbles.
Hi Scott,
DeleteMy friend and I were just discussing this last night, how it is difficult to have so many close friends in your life. I am very private as well, and while I do have a couple of close friends, I find it difficult to be close or open up to so many. As far as being social towards people, at school, I try my best to be friendly and welcoming towards everyone. Although I may not be so "close" with them, it doesn't hurt to brighten someone's day with a smile. Thanks for sharing.
Hi Nikki!
DeleteThank you for replying and sharing, too. I can't tell you how many times I might be having a subpar day, and I'd be walking along and in passing another person we both exchange a passing smile or some sort of acknowledgment, and it actually picked up my mood. The power of a simple smile could be a difference maker in how someone's day goes. :)
Hi Scott,
DeleteI find myself to be like you in the way that I like to be sociable when I'm in public, but I'm also very private when it comes to my personal life. I do wisely choose who I decide to bring into my home or around my family. On a different subject, if you haven't been to Mexico you need to go. Everyone is always in a good mood, and they mostly all say hi to you when you cross paths with them :)
I find being more selective makes for less drama, haha. I have been to Cancun, and was amazed that the people were all very pleasant, though they are so poor.
Delete“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” I picked this quote because this is something I’m always arguing with people. We just cannot judge someone based on the first impression. I do work on a preschool, and because of my job I do interact with different people every day. Most of the children are from low income families, some have single parent households, and others are being raised by their grandparents. The stress on each one of those families is different. I have seen some of them going from one side to the other side with their emotional, and family problems, or their financial stability. I never know with what attitude they will come with on the mornings. I don’t know what they are going through. I just know that I cannot form an opinion based on the attitude they had the first day of school. We are all humans, with a variety of attitudes, feelings and moods. We go through many things every day that it’s almost impossible to have the same energy on the mornings than on the afternoons. I think that as humans, we need more than one opportunity to show who we really are. But unfortunately, sometimes we only have one chance to show what we can really do for others.
ReplyDeleteVery touching entry. Great response to the quote.
DeleteHi Marisol,
DeleteI agree with you. You can't always judge someone by the first interaction you have with that person. I believe that it's even possible to not completely know someone even if a lifetime was available.
glopez, I didn't want to go that far, but you are right. We don't even know yourselves. We don't know how we are going to react to the unknown.
Deletehello Jose, I sometimes also see the same thing you do changing personalities, I believe that it has to do with their community and the people they associated themselves with you know also if we see the media and social media that's something that plays a big part in a persons life.
ReplyDeleteThe quote by C.S. Lewis is the one that stood out to me the most because I hear about stories of children misbehaving all the time. My boyfriend's mom is the principal at Compton Jr. High here in Bakersfield, so of course she has crazy stories from what her kids do at school. A lot of the kids fight and say horrible things to one another. My first thought is always "Wow, those stories make me wonder what their parents are like." Children are strongly influenced by their environment. The environment of their home with the parents/guardians, etc. will definitely be displayed in their actions elsewhere. I see some parents who encourage their kids to act in a rude manner. A friend of mine was a school bus driver for BCSD and one day one of his kids was messing around on the bus and kept standing up on purpose to test him. My friend scolded him and the kid immediately cussed him out. When the kid was dropped off at his bus stop, the parent of the kid went up to my friend and started cussing him out too. Children copy the actions of those who influence them. I know many who are wonderful parents, but if parents are rude to children, then their children will most likely imitate them. I am also appalled when I see parents who are rude to children because those children are our future. We need to raise them with good moral values and encourage them!
ReplyDeleteYou are not lying. I agree with your idea of imploring positivity and principles to the uprising generation. Guardianship quality needs to improve. I think its interesting to see how quickly a child in your example was without a doubt a product of his environment. Thanks for sharing.
DeleteHi Angela,
DeleteI agree with your points. Children imitate the behavior they see at home and some parents do not see anything wrong with their actions or words. That is why so many children are out of line nowadays.
I could not agree more with you Angela! I also believe parents should raise their children with good morals and values in order for them to be respectful towards others. Also, they way parents act towards children plays a big role in those children's life.
DeleteAngela,
Deleteyou are right, children will always follow the example of their parents and if they are not taught to be polite they will always do otherwise!
Angela, yes you're right. That's where the saying "the children are a reflection of their parents" comes from.
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ReplyDeleteThe quote that stood out to me the most would definitely have to be Maya Angelou "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." I think this quote stands out to me more because the fact that first impressions are everything in today's society. I believe people now a days judge someone within the first 5 seconds of meeting them. Although I see this as to be the norm in todays standards, I don't believe that it should be like that. It takes more than a first meeting to really get to know someone. That person that was being rude to you in line at the supermarket could have just been denied a job interview. That waitress that is rude taking your order at a restaurant is upset because they are missing their daughters dance recital. You never know what someone is going through when you meet them, so always give them another chance. I believe people are naturally kind and want to be sociable, so I never judge someone off one bad day. I tend to look at the good days more.
ReplyDeleteGood point Christian. I does take time to see someones true colors and just because of the first interaction doesn't mean that that's who they are.
DeleteThat's true. You're right, you could be meeting someone on their bad day and this isn't always who they really are. We shouldn't judge and always give another chance.
Delete3. C.S. Lewis said, "We hear a great deal about the rudeness of the rising generation. I am an oldster myself and might be expected to take the oldsters' side, but in fact I have been far more impressed by the bad manners of parents to children than by those of children to parents."
ReplyDelete- I agree with C.S. Lewis because due to the lack of parental efficacy which has now lead to a social disorganization within our society. This is not to say all parents in our society fall under this, but the amount is significant. Older adults are demanding the respect that was never taught to the rising generation today. The ability of the upcoming generation to distinguish between right and wrong has severely dwindled. The lack of guardianship will lead to deviant acts in society which can span from simply being rude to criminal acts. At this point creating programs or events that promote a positive outlook would be great.
Daniel, you are so right. Of course, there is always an exception to the rule. But I do believe that on this, and all past generations, attitudes are a reflection of parent involvement.
DeleteI enjoyed the Maya Angelou quote “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” This quote has depth and meaning to ponder beyond the literal sense of the quote. To me she is not referring to when you meet a person for the first time, and the experience is positive or negative. I believe she is referring to people you are close to, colleagues, friends, a lover, anyone you see regularly beyond an acquaintance. I took this quote to mean when a difficult, stressful,or challenging situation presents itself how a person reacts to that will tell you a lot about them. A practical example I can think of is if two people are dating and living together, one of them loses their job and suddenly the partner is less interested, not empathetic, patient or understanding. You can quickly see this person would only be interested in comfort, money, putting their needs above their partners in a stressful situation would show you how they would continue to act moving forward. People show who they really are not when you first meet them, but when they are in their comfort zone.
ReplyDeleteThat's a good example to use. A lot of people show their true colors when they're comfortable. They want to give a good impression at first and when they're comfortable, the truth comes out.
DeleteSean,
DeleteYou wrote a good post. This is because you clearly stated what Maya Angelou’s quote actually meant. All of your statements were absolutely 100% true. This quote applies to almost anyone, like the following: people at work, friends, GFs/BFs, spouses, etc. You basically have to see whether these people are the following: understanding, caring, empathetic, and supportive. Like what you said, when the situation is difficult, you should pay attention to how other people respond accordingly. Some people understand, care, show empathy, and support the people who are down. Other people can show laziness, greed, self-interest, and a lack of support/feelings. I think that believing people means that you immediately recognize their qualities, form an impression, and know what to do the second time you see them. Your action has to be the best action, according to the situation. Overall, you wrote a nice response because of your interpretations, your references to certain people, and your true facts.
Good luck.
Roshaan S.
The quote by Maya Angelou, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time” stood out to me the most because its meaning is deep. This quote speaks the truth because indeed, when someone shows you who they are the first time you should consider it. We should never wait for the 5th or 6th time to take into consideration a person's true colors. The first time a person mistreats you or lies to you, then you should believe that is their personality and it will not be the first time they will do it. I have personally witnessed this with a couple people I have encountered throughout my life. They showed me how selfish they were since the beginning but i decided to ignore it. I tried to adjust to the kind of person they were but at the end I realized you can't change someone if that is who they are. This quote can also be used in a positive manner though, if you ever meet someone for the first time and they are kind and selfless, then you should definitely stay close to that person because that is who they are. Besides, it is easy to recognize when someone is pretending to be something they are not or when someone is naturally a certain way. I think this quote is powerful because it applies to our daily struggles while meeting people for the first time. It is sort of an eye opener into seeing people's true colors.
ReplyDeleteThere are some people that tend to show their true colors later than the first meet because they try to impress you in the beginning which isn't good.
DeleteClaudia,
Deletethat is true, but then again sometimes we can tell when they are pretending to be something they are not.
Hey Deisy. I absolutely agree with you that it is easy to recognize someone's true colors when they are pretending to be something they are not. Lies are hard to keep consistent as time goes on.
DeleteYang,
Deleteyes, I have learned from my own experiences but at least I know when people are pretending to be something else or if they really that way.
"We hear a great deal about the rudeness of the rising generation. I am an oldster myself and might be expected to take the oldsters' side, but in fact I have been far more impressed by the bad manners of parents to children than by those of children to parents."- C.S. Lewis
ReplyDeleteThis strikes me the most because of how this generation is growing and becoming to be. It is somewhat scary to think that children nowadays is rude and relentless. The questions that comes to my mind are: How did we get to this action/reaction? How did this kids turn out to be like what they are now? Did the government itself did this? Well Those questions can be answered by looking at what Lewis said. The action of the parents have been so different that kids this days have grown so differently. They don't have the Good Manners and Right Conduct. When I was a kid I remember, my parents use to spank me for being rude or did something rudely to anyone. I was reminded that I should not act like badly in public or at home. Great example of this parenting issue, is the 13 years old on the internet, great known as "cash me outside how bow dat." If the parents have devoted more time to kids like this, things wouldn't happen. Also the government laws that have been pass concerning or protecting kids have nearly torn the ability of parents to their job. I mean now a days you cant even spank a kid because they can call 911, and you bet you will go to jail. The scare phenomenon that Government had created is making our generation full of rude kids.
Rude and relentless is a great way describe certain behaviors of the youth. That 13 internet star is also a good example. It's hard to understand why a person of that caliber would get fame and money.
DeleteRelentless is a good word to use. I believe a big problem is how these children have access to social media and see these things being praised. It causes them to act out because they think it's cool.
DeleteAgreed!! It seems each generation complains about the next. However, even the worst of the worst of the children I knew growing up didn't behave as badly as some do today. Sadly, when you have parents that have decided to allow electronics to raise their kids, this is the resulting outcome.
DeleteAfter reading through all three quotes I would have to say that Maya Angelou’s quote stood out to me the most, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time”. This quote speaks the truth because it is true that you should take into considerations some ones first impression or the way they act. If the person shows that they are mean or aggressive most likely they are going to be that way. I know that there are people at first are nice than change but when you see that part of them best believe that that’s who they really are. Maybe at this point you should walk away. There are times that it takes time to see some one’s true colors because they might want to impress you in the beginning. This is in a relationship point of view. This quote kind of makes me think of domestic violence I guess in away. When meeting someone you should see who they are and what their intentions are. I guess you can take this quote into a negative or a positive way.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you 100%. A first impression is a lasting impression.
DeleteYou're right. If someone does something that shows their true colors, you shouldn't forgive them. I've seen it firsthand. They will apologize and say it will never happen again, but before you know it, it's happening.
DeleteMy perspective with this quote is that someone could be saving face the first time they meet you in order for you to accept who they are, then they will eventually show their true side. I was going to reflect on this quote as well but I had both agreements and disagreements on this quote so I chose not to do it because I couldn't decide what side I wanted to choose lol.
DeleteThe quote overall is pretty agreeable. I think it's hard to really bounce back in the same relationship friends could be in if one of them acts like a heel one day, or does something messed up.
DeleteI liked all the quotes we had to choose from, but the one that stood out to me the most was "Be civil to all, sociable to many, familiar with few, friend to one, enemy to none" by Benjamin Franklin. It is very important to me to be a nice human being because that is just how I was raised. I treat people with the same respect that I want them to treat me with. I try to be a nice person to everyone I meet. I also try to socialize but it does not always work out because of my shyness. There are a couple people that I am familiar with, but I do not consider them close friends (more like acquaintances). I only keep a few friends close (about 3-4) and I am not one to hold grudges or have enemies. Life is too short to be worrying about or hating a person. Forgive and move on.
ReplyDeleteHi Alma,
DeleteI agree, who has time to worry or hate someone now a days! I think it is best to disregard those who have not been the nicest to us and move on just like you state. I am glad you were raise with those morals, treat those like you want to be treated. I believe life is a balance, what you give is what you get.
Thanks for sharing!
Alma,
DeleteI agree it is important to learn to be kind to others, but most of all be humble. I dislike when people feel as if they are better than others, we need to learn to be kind to each other.
From all three of the quotes listed, Ben Franklin put the hammer on the nail. I would agree, that being “civil”, is something everyone should adopt. We, as a species, are continuing to grow and as our populations increase we see more people. It would do justice if everyone could spread a little positivity and politeness. People say “A little goes a long way!” and it really does! Rarely, do I pass someone these days and see a smile or even a hello. Most of the time people are on their phones or with their heads down. What’s up with that? The second part of that quote said to be sociable to many, but not all. I respect the great Franklin for acknowledging the fact that there may be some people to avoid socializing with. The word “many” could be a big number but I don’t think it meant everyone would be included. Third step is to be familiar with a few people. Again, I think what Benjamin Franklin was trying to say is to lay low and not be too flamboyant. It is good to have a strong social network but only limit yourself to a certain degree. Do not stand out in the crowd. The fourth step is to be a friend to one. What I think Mr. Franklin is saying, is we should have a relationship with our friends like no other relationship. Something shared with a friend is unique to that person and is only shared with that individual. Last step is to be an enemy to none. Word!
ReplyDeleteI agree! I always try to at least smile when make eye contact with a stranger. It's crazy that everyone doesn't seem to want to be polite.
DeletePhones have definitely made socializing a little more restrictive, but not entirely. I personally see it as people maximizing how they spend their silence. It's just inevitable that we are going to be silent during our conversations. Not all people can hold on a conversation for minutes straight - eventually there is going to be silence. I don't condemn phones too much, nor do I really blame when people get on their phones recently. Back then, people would just let silence take them as they let their minds and eyes wander around the world. The silence will be filled in eventually; it just takes a shorter time now I think.
DeleteThe quote that stood out the most to me was the last one by C.S Lewis. With the political atmosphere being what it is these days, and the protests calling for change, I see a lot of distain and negativity towards the millennials. As a millennial myself, I appreciate C.S. Lewis sticking up for us! Some of us may be rude, as there are these kinds of people in every generation (my Great Aunt for example haha!). However, it is unfair to the rest of my generation, many of whom are intelligent, level-headed people who are just trying to make a difference in the world where we can. Furthermore, while it is the responsibility of the person to learn from peers and acquire manners as they grow, our first teachings are from our parents. Hatred can only be learned from hatred, and love can only be learned from love. We have to step back and appreciated the different generations for who they are, and what they have contributed, instead of only focusing on what each one is doing wrong in order to seek real change.
ReplyDeleteHi Niki,
DeleteI agree with you, our first teaching come from our parents. No child is born a racist or with hate in their heart. Because we learn from behavior we learn many things from our caregivers and those behaviors sometimes are the most righteous. It is hard to accept we were born in this generation, but we adults now and it is our responsibility to change those learn patterns.
"We have to step back and appreciated the different generations for who they are, and what they have contributed, instead of only focusing on what each one is doing wrong in order to seek real change."
DeleteI could not agree more, but sometimes real change means doing the right thing. There are those, in whatever social or professional circle they may happen to be in that do not want "real change" because then that means levelling the playing field. Sad that there are those that won't embrace such an idea.
Very often in the community I interact with every day and time to time, it's quite often that there are long-distanced friendships. While it's true that I often meet with friends I'm familar with and those I've yet to speak to, it isn't exactly a ten minute walk to get over to them; it's a two-hour drive. The bigger events for this community I seldom go to, but it is inevitable that you will meet new people, create relationships, and spark new friendships. Thus, the quote that speaks to me the most is definitely Benjamin Franklin's, where he says "Be civil to all, sociable to many, familiar with few, friend to one, enemy to none." Once again, I should reiterate that it's often that I meet with friends I'm familiar with, but it should be noted: It's every Friday. Before then, I was not a sociable person to many within the community I've been a part of for maybe a large majority of my life. I've often done activities with a smaller group of friends until eventually they brought in more of their friends, and we continued to branch out to bring in more. Community building is a large aspect of any community, and bringing new people into friend groups is always good. It's quite often that we help one another or tell each another what we could fix, and so, it's good to become familiar with one another. It's quite often within this community we set our own standards on how to talk to one another, or what's too far when it comes to our banter. Everyone's pretty cool, but of course, there's always going to be a few bad apples eventually, so it's really mostly up to us to either correct this, or tell them to cut it out. I'm definitely grateful to part of such a welcoming community that has open arms for new folk, even if the first step to the community can be rather tough. Unfortunately, the nature of competition will always get newcomers to catch up to people of higher skill level, but it's very often we have to remind experienced players that we've all started somewhere, and we should treat new people as others have (hopefully) treated them.
ReplyDeleteMaya Angelou’s quote stood out to me the most because character is crucial in today’s society. First impressions can determine an interaction between individuals. Sometimes it can even determine if those individuals even have some sort of relationship. I have always believed that actions speak louder than words. I believe we are all creatures of habit and if can be very beneficial to show who we are the first time we interact or meet someone. This statement works both ways, the first impression you make on someone or believing when someone tells you who he or she is, is extremely important. Overall, I believe we should always give the best of ourselves in this world and just like Maya Angelou states believe them the first time, even if that certain individual did not give their very best at least you know you gave your best.
ReplyDeleteMelissa, I also strongly believe that actions speak louder than words. It doesn't always work out well for someone to pretend to be something they are not. The best you you can be is always yourself.
DeleteThe first quote by Benjamin Franklin stood out to me the most. I believe it did because this is how I try to live my life. During high school and even after, I never had any problems with anyone and I kept to myself. Although I kept to myself, I was always civil with everyone, just never came too close to anyone. I always remained close to a few friends and my family. By doing this, I never had any problems or drama with anyone. I would always see other people befriend everyone and try to be the center of attention, but this always caused them drama. They were always in fights with others and the 'friends' they had were always talking about them. This is an unhealthy way to live and I always saw these people end up unhappy. I also believe it's better when everyone doesn't know everything that's going on in your life and all of your business. Some things should be kept to yourself. You will live a happier life if you follow this quote and don't contribute to the drama.
ReplyDeleteDrama, drama, drama. Yes girl, some people loves to have drama around their lives. I share the idea that some things need to be kept in private. Nice post.
DeleteBrianna,
Deletesadly its true, there are certain individuals who love to have drama, but when someone is mature enough to avoid it drama is irrelevant. That when is important to learn to be nice to each other because drama doesn't take us anywhere! it just brings negativity to our lives
Some people completely disregard this quote and not only cause drama, but have toxic personalities. If they are at work, school, social event with friends they can't help but cause drama, and from people I have known like this in the past they think that everyone is causing drama with them. When in reality it is their poor attitude and lack of civility or empathy towards others that puts them in these drama infused situations daily.
DeleteHi Brianna,
DeleteThis is true, if people were to follow the procedure of this quote the world would be drama free but sadly some people cannot live without drama.
Brianna, I agree with you I also chose this quote.its hard to live without drama these days. People need to value respect.
DeleteMaya Angelou has a fantastic way of delivering the biggest punch in the shortest sentence sometimes. First impressions are everything. The feeling I get upon meeting someone for the first time will cast a shadow throughout the entire time we know each other – good or bad. There are few that have surprised me and are completely different than what I first thought. With that said, I do try to hold out to form an opinion of people as long as possible. It is hard sometimes. Maybe we do so because we need to know how to approach the person, like match the energy they bring. I think that judgment stems from when we were all cavepeople. It had to be decided early on enough if someone would work in the group.
ReplyDeleteI agree, sometimes we just meet people on a bad day. Cant judge someone to quickly I suppose!
DeleteI agree with you, we are all quick to judge! Most times the first few seconds you meet somone are the interpretations you will always have about then! Great response!
DeleteThe quote that stands out to me the most is Benjamin Franklin’s: “Be civil to all, sociable to many, familiar with few, friend to one, and enemy to none” because it holds true to how I live in my life. I strive to be civil to all people – even the people I dislike. I fail to find any positive reasons in developing enemies. Despite being reserved and shy, I try to be sociable to many because as I grew older I learned that knowing how to socialize is an essential skill in expanding your network which can be beneficial to different areas of my life. This ties into the next line of being “familiar with few.” Although I can socialize with many people, I only choose to be familiar with a few of them because those are the people I feel that I can truly connect with on a deeper level. Finally, out of all those people, there is always that one person whom I feel especially connected to – we both get each other’s jokes, understand how each other feels without explicitly stating it, share each other’s values, and much more. That one friend is someone who unconditionally loves and supports you and who can talk with you about endless topics for endless hours.
ReplyDeleteYang,
Deleteit is good that despite being shy and reserved you still make the effort to socialize with others, I can definitely relate tho that because that is exactly how I am, and like you said it is better to have" fewer" people around, I am a firm believer or quality over quantity.
I enjoyed C.S. Lewis quote the most for multiple reasons. First of all, I find this quote very relevant in todays society. We are often so quick to judge this new generations because "they're rude and disrespectful", but we don't think about how they became that way. Children imitate the actions of their parents. So when all they see and hear at home is parents being disrespectful towards each other and their own kids, children copy those exact actions and use them towards others. They think is okay to act that way because their parents did not teach them any different. Instead of judging the next generation, we should lead by example and teach our children manners and respect so they will hopefully do the same with their children.
ReplyDeleteHi Viridiana, I completely agree with you. My response I realize is very similar to yours. I love your post.
DeleteHi Viridiana,
DeleteI totally agree with you. I just wrote about my parents inculcating respect in my brothers and I, and that I don't often see that in this new generation. And your right! If the kids don't see this in their homes and the parents don't teach it to them then how are they going to learn what it even is?
I agree, this was also one one of my favorite quotes. I couldn't agree more with you because people today do tend to Judge so quickly.
DeleteI agree that we should lead by example, but do you think that there is a point in a person's life when they are able to recognize when they are being rude and could make a decision based on they know to be right? When you think about it, children do not only learn from their parents, but also from teachers, other children, and people they come across in their environment each day. I have, as I'm sure you have, of children who grow up in the most dreadful situations who turn out to be model citizens. What do you think?
DeleteI agree with you! It seems as if prior generations think so different of current generations and the respect and manners they have. But they can't forget that they are the generations whom were supposed to teach them!
DeleteThe quote that stood out to me the most was the third one by C.S. Lewis because throught the rising generations, many are quick to judge their upbringing. This really is important to me because I see the young kids who have really bad attitudes or are very disrespectful to their elders and it saddens me. They grow up watching their parents, the words used and actions they see influence them and the way the are. We tend to forget, though, that these children are raised this way. Do not mistake my words, I am not saying they have bad parents at all. Children have been allowed to "talk back" and show attitude without being taught they are wrong. And since they are not taught when they are wrong they think its okay to be that way. I feel its vital that parents show a great example to their children so they can grow up to follow their lead.
ReplyDeleteHi Karissa, I also believe parents should show a great example of being polite and kind, so the children can grow up learning what that means.
DeleteKarissa, education and manners start at home. Whatever the parents shows their children, that is what they are going to believe is right. As they get older, they may have problems if they were not taught these two important lessons.
DeleteHi Karissa,
DeleteI believe the same thing many kids these days are not taught to be respectful and it is sad because they look give their parents and themselves a bad impression.
1. Benjamin Franklin said, "Be civil to all, sociable to many, familiar with few, friend to one, enemy to none." (“civil” here means courteous or polite)
ReplyDeleteI'm going to break this down piece by piece reflect on what comes to my mind when reading this quote:
First part says: "Be civil(polite) to all..."
Being polite comes with manners. It is a common courtesy to be polite and respectful to everyone. Sadly, in today's day and age, this trait is lacked within a lot of people. I see it out in public, social media, reality television, etc. and in some crowds, lack of courtesy gets praised. It is disappointing to see.
Second part states: "...sociable to many..."
Although I feel that respect should always be given, that doesn't mean you have to entertain the individual on the other side of communication. Being courteous is in my opinion a gesture or action that doesn't always need a follow up action. You can be courteous and ask someone how their day is going but you don't have to sit there for an hour and converse with them.
Third part says: "...familiar with few..."
If you choose to strike up a conversation with someone, you are showing interest in them or the subject based on your observation. Some people may not turn out to be who you thought they were in time, while others could faintly be apart of your life and randomly be a huge impact. Only time will tell.
The last part that I will combine is: "...friend to one, enemy to none."
It is hard (especially nowadays) to find someone that is loyal and true to their word. When you come across someone, keep them close to you. Stating to be a friend to one tells me to keep my circle small and be very selective on who will have a great deal of significance in my life. Enemy to none is self explanatory, I don't believe holding grudges will benefit you or your life in any way. If there is a dispute, talk it out with the individual. It will lead to one of two conclusions: either it gets talked out and the dispute is settled with no hard feelings, or there is disagreement and the dispute will not end with both parties satisfied. If the second conclusion occurs, all you can do is do your best to handle the situation in a respectful manner and if it cannot be met on the other side then you can walk away peacefully knowing you did the right thing.
If I could choose any of the three quotes, I would choose the first one (Benjamin Franklin’s quote). This is because he used the five words (all, many, few, one, and none) to clearly identify what a person should do, to each amount of people. A person should always be polite and courteous to all people, because he/she should treat others the way he/she wants to be treated. This also means that everyone should be just and respectful in society, and should not form internal judgments in his/her mind. A person should be sociable to many people, because sociability is a major part of survival for everyone (at work, in college, and in clubs). A person should be familiar with a few people, because he/she should know not to trust everyone. A person should be a friend to one person, because that same friend is a life-saver. A person should obviously have no enemies, because having enemies creates bad thoughts, feelings, actions, habits, and characters. Negative character can ruin health, reputations, and opportunities for any particular person. I noticed that all five parts of Ben Franklin’s quote are good for niceness, survival, safety, loveliness, and peace/health. Overall, I enjoyed writing about this quote. My second favorite quote is C. S. Lewis’s quote about manners, because of the following reasons: C. S. Lewis was a good author who wrote excellent quotes (especially the quote, “Integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching.”), and every generation should be preserved (from its parents to its children).
ReplyDelete"Be civil to all, sociable to many, familiar with few, friend to one, enemy to none."
ReplyDeleteI think I identify myself more to this first quote by Benjamin Franklin. Two things come up to my mind when I read this quote: manners and profession. I think of manners because my parents have always inculcated respect in my brothers and I. This is something I'm very thankful for. Unfortunately I've noticed it's an act not everyone demonstrates nowadays. For example, I'm sure if any of you have traveled to Mexico, where my parents are from, you have noticed everyone says hi to you even if they don't know who you are. There are some that will even begin a conversation with you like if they have known you forever. This is something that is rare here in the U.S., and especially rare with the new generation. I know I'm one to typically say hi and if it's possible maybe even start a conversation, and believe me when I say I have received some awkward looks. It's okay :) Furthermore, I feel like the one friend I have is my sister. I know that I can rely on her at all times and trust her with anything. Enemies? I don't believe I have any being that I only allow certain people in my personal life. As for the profession side of it, it's pretty obvious. I just believe that this whole quote pretty much sums up what an employee needs to do in order to rise in their professional status.
I totally agree with you on saying hi to people, it really happens and when it does people just look at you like "what do you want?".
DeleteYes Denise, it makes me feel like I'm a weirdo, but it's o.k!
DeleteWhen I went to Cancun and some places around there, I was amazed that though the vast majority of people were very poor, they were all very pleasant and happy.
DeleteJose,
ReplyDeleteI have personally experienced people changing their personality later on and trust me it can be disappointing.
- It may be the emapth in me, but I feel no human is at fault in regards to their behavior (aside from psychopaths because it is not possible for them to learn empathy). We all need help, we all need to expand our understanding/ knowledge. C.S Lewis' quote spoke to me, because I agree with his point of view.
ReplyDeleteAs older folks, most of us expect adolescents to be well behaved and have up to par mannerisms. What must be understood is why they are not "perfect". Well, in part it has to do with their development. Adults distance themselves cognitively from the life view and behaviorism of adolescents. Hence why a lot of parents have difficulties raising their children. Parents may want to raise their children to perfection and that in and of itself can be vile to an adolescent depending on if their parents' behavior leads to mental or physical abuse. There is a documentary available on Netflix titled, "Trophy Kids", about the behavior on parents to their own children who are in sports. The parents literally and figuratively push their children to their limits in the sport they play. Psychologically and physically, the children are drained and hurt. It is tough.
Unfortunately, those same parents who mentally or physically abuse their children may have been raised the same way by their parents/guardians. If that is true, then it is considered "learned behavior". Which brings me back to what I said about no one being at fault. Sometimes the cycle between abuse in family generations is broken, but sometimes it is not. Those who are abusive parents were not born to be abusive; they were taught to be abusive.
For anyone who needs this- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK(8255)...you are enough.
The quote that stood out to me the most was the one by Benjamin Franklin. They were all quotes to think about and try to understand their meaning, but this one is something to live by. By being civil to everyone I feel like everyone that you come into contact has no choice but to be civil in return. It is always great to be social and not ignore anymore, this way you are able to meet new people and have different types of experiences. It then goes on to say to be familiar with few, I see this as keeping your circle smaller and only truly being friends with very little or one person. The last part is what I thought was the most important because when you have no enemies you can truly be happy, if you show kindness to everyone you should for the most part get that same in return.
ReplyDeleteGreat interpretation of the quote! I agree we all should be civil to one another. To receive civil attributes from a person you should give it in order to revive! I agree with what you have said!
DeleteI have to go ahead and choose the first quote by Benjamin Franklin, what he says in the quote is “Be civil to all, sociable to many, familiar with few, friend to one, enemy to none." I chose this quote because I can relate to it. I was always taught to treat others the way you want to be treated and it is true. Not everyone is civil will all but I find it as a waste of energy to be rude back, why let your day be ruined by someone who is disrespectful to others. I’m not a very social person but if someone talks to me then I will talk to them back, but you have to be wise with the people that you let be in your life. Talking to people is one thing but actually having a trusting relationship with them is different. Everyone should have at least one friend they can rely on at any circumstance. Be enemy to none, I have never had any trouble with anyone and I tend to keep it that way. I feel like having an enemy gives off negative energy that is unnecessary and blocks you from having a happy life because that one person is preventing it. Why waste time being unhappy when you could be happy with simple choices you make.
ReplyDeleteThe quote that I can relate most with would be, "Be civil to all, sociable to many, familiar with few, friend to one, enemy to none” by Benjamin Franklin. I love this quote because it’s a shadow of how I have been raised. I believe that many people should inculcate this quote in their lives to become polite and respectful. My parents always told my sisters and I that we had to be courteous to everyone and never be disrespectful. Children should be taught to have manners and be polite to everyone. Nowadays I feel that some kids are not even taught to be polite and to be social. I currently work at a High School and I sometimes feel students are not polite. I hear a lot of cussing during class and many are entertained on their phones. It is sad to see how technology plays an important life on kids these days because they are deprived from a social life. I believe this quote is clear because it says people should not have enemies and that we all need to social, polite, and caring for one another. I believe that together we can all achieve more than fighting against each other. Also, this quote should be taught to kids by their parents when they are young because being polite and social are important things in life that will be useful in a person’s future. I appreciate that my parents did everything they could to make sure my sisters and I were respectful and polite ladies.
ReplyDeleteI was raised very similarly. Respect was a big thing to my mom. She was always polite to everyone and made sure that all her kids were too. I agree that a lot of kids aren't raised the same way today.
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ReplyDeleteThe quote by Benjamin franklin grabbed my attention the most because I personally think he sent such a strong message. I mean what he says just has a powerful meaning to it. When he says "Be civil to all, sociable to many, I think he means to treat all people with respect. With that being said to treat everyone good even if they don't treat you well back. When he says "friend to one, enemy to none" send such a powerful meaning to many, at least I did to myself. Another thing I would like to mention is, most people tend to judge without actually knowing who the person really is. Therefore someday I would like to see that start fading away. Benjamin Franklin states "be civil to all", and by that when you first meet someone I believe you should actually get to know that person before one judges. I'm guilty with that but at the end of the day everyone judges each other and that's something I'm slowly working on.
ReplyDeleteOverall, Benjamin franklin inspired me. Respect is something that I value a lot and something that I will continue. His quote sent a powerful meaning to myself and I will try to continue to value respect to everyone.
It seems that many people really liked this quote and I can understand why. There is a lot of wisdom to be gained from it. I also really like your insight about respecting others.
DeleteC.S. Lewis' quote is very applicable to society today. It is something we see every day: children misbehaving, talking back to their parents, cursing, being verbally abusive to other kids and even their own parents. While it is not acceptable behavior, we must take into consideration how those parents respond to those children. Most of the time, their immediate response is to raise their voice and talk down to them. Parents question where their kids learn to be so disrespectful, yet do not realize their children are mimicking the behaviors they see at home. Children are not born with manners; they are taught. And who do parents expect children to learn these behaviors from if not the very people that teach them most everything else? While it is unfair to place all the blame on mom and dad, they need to remember that their children are constantly watching them. They are watching what they say, how they say it, and who they are saying it to. If parents are consistently bad-mouthing people around them, why wouldn’t the child think that is appropriate behavior? Children look up to their parents, as they should. However, when they are very young, it is difficult for them to comprehend that their parents are not perfect. And I am not saying that parents should be. I am saying that anger should not be their first response. They should think before they speak and especially before they act.
ReplyDeleteHi Kim, I like the perspective you have on this quote. When society looks at how troubled the youth is, the parents position in the child's behavior is completely surpassed. I'm not sure what exactly changed over the years in parenting but it doesn't seem to be so bright in the future. Could it be the ongoing development of technology or the media ?
DeleteC.S. Lewis is interesting to me. I think there needs to be continued study on this matter as it carries on from one generation to the next. Each generation of younger people brings with it change. Sometimes this change is welcomed, but often, the older generation dislikes the behaviors, fashion trends, and attitudes of the younger generation. Instead of accepting change, they see it as a disruption of life as they have come to know it. The brain likes consistency, so we cannot entirely blame the older generation for their lack of patience they sometimes display. Not only until recently, with advanced brain imagery, have we discovered just how different the younger brain perceives its environment than those of people over the age of twenty-five; twenty-five is the average age that the frontal lobe of the brain matures. While younger people may not be intentionally doing things to elicit poor or rude behavior form older people, this does not excuse the many that refuse to say good morning, afternoon, or good night when an older person says it to them, or just to be polite in general. Young people may learn these behaviors at home, which may speak to to changes in the households since industrialization of this country. It may also speak to the American culture of independence. Reports that you hear from schoolteachers, police officers, and many others that are in occupations that were once looked up at, will also shed some light to the conversation. When the younger generation grows up and become the older generation, they also may lose their patience with the next younger generation for many of the same reasons, and thus the cycle continues.
ReplyDeleteMaya Angelou said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” This quote stood out to me the most because we tend to judge someone the second we meet them, it may not be our intention but first impressions stick with us. If you interact with someone and their personality is bubbly you will definitely remember them and more than likely want to continue the relationship, compared to someone who came off as rude in the beginning. For me, being kind and courteous is very important when first meeting a person, you never know who you are interacting with and networking is very important. Although some people may start off on the wrong foot with you, this quote is kind of conflicting. People have bad days and sometimes can be in bad mood when you first interact, so sometimes it is best not to hold a grudge when you collide with a person.
ReplyDeleteThe quote that stood out to me was Maya Angelou’s. I read the quote a few times to see where my mind went after reading it. I don't necessarily think it's talking about first impressions because people can portray to be less like themselves. This quote stood out to me because I am constantly trying to give people chances to redeem their selves and their actions. The quote speaks loudly to me because I should go with my gut instinct when I see how someone is, instead of trying to change my perspective about them. People will show you their true colors because they can't hide it for long. Some people don't deserve a second chance because they display how they are going to be over and over no matter who it involves. I constantly see my friends put themselves in relationships with people who are not the best people, and expect these people to change even though their character stays the same from the beginning. When someone shows their true self, take that and only that impression.
ReplyDeleteThe quote that interested me the most was the one by C.S. Lewis. It interested me because as a new parent, I want to make sure I am not one of those parents with bad manners to their children. However, it is difficult to avoid not having bad manners when children rebel and do not want to listen to the parents, which may frustrate a parent making them act upon the feelings of being disrespected. This can cause parents to respond back to the child with offensive words, or act in a way that may not be appropriate such as hitting the child instead of talking to them in a more effective way. I think in todays society, children and parents may be missing out in more parent to child relationships such as quality time, or playtime since technology has cause parents to be stuck in their phones while children may be stuck on Television, or even their own technological device. I think this can cause conflict, if parenting skills are not intact and reinforce with positive feedback. Parenthood is not easy and many times when people come from a family with little manners and respect for adults the children also learn from the parents and may reflect similar characters. I have also seen parents that show their children good manners, yet children sometimes do not want to cooperate and still turn out to be disrespectful individuals, but this is usually not always the case.
ReplyDeleteMaya Anglelou said it best with “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” I say this because people will behave a certain way the first time without any background knowledge. The best example is when they tell you to treat everyone with respect because you don’t know who you will run into. Some people will treat a janitor like a lower class because they believe they are better than them, only later to find out that they really treated the CEO of a company like they were garbage. Suddenly their attitude changes and they begin to apologize. But that still doesn’t mean that they are a good person. If that person had treated that individual with respect the first time they wouldn’t have that problem. You only get one chance to make a first impression.
ReplyDeleteThe quote that really stuck out to me was the one by CS Lewis: "We hear a great deal about the rudeness of the rising generation. I am an oldster myself and might be expected to take the oldsters' side, but in fact I have been far more impressed by the bad manners of parents to children than by those of children to parents."
ReplyDeleteIt is very common, generation by generation to remark on the deteriorating morals and characters of the present youth. What those people fail to realize is it's their responsibility to teach their young people to be a person of good character and value. It's easy for adults to blame their children for the terrible attitude they have, when in essence it's the duty of the parent to train up their children but more importantly be a model of such character. It's one thing to tell your children to be kind and patient with others, yet when the children see their parents quick to get angry and rude, they will follow suite. I love this quote by CS Lewis because it's this kind of truth that we need to understand in order to better our next generation.
The second quote "when somone shows you who they are, believe then the first time" really caught my attention. This quote is relatable to basically everyone. We all tend to judge people the first time we meet them. We all have made assumptions of what type of person they are and often times we are wrong. Acorrding to the quote we should allow an individual to show us whom they are. A person generally will always be shy at first and eventually come out of their shell. We should always let an individual show us the real them. To not judge a person is quite difficult but it benefits you in the end not expecting something different ithen what they really are. This was a great quote and hope to see many interpretations of it.
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DeleteI definitely agree with you. We should always let some one show us the real them because if we quickly jump to conclusions without even knowing them fully or knowing the real them. It won't matter if they start to reveal their real selves.
I decided to go with the quote of Maya Angelou's quote, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” This quote speaks so much volume. It's a short quote that has so much meaning to it. I was raised to never judge because you never really know who they are or what their going through. I think as a society we are so quick to judge others before even giving them a chance. I only judge someone based off their actions because actions speak louder than words. You can tell a lot about somebody by the way they act and that could be for wherever or whatever their doing. I'm a sole believer of when I first somebody and however they come off that's how I'm gonna based my judgement off of. Not before but after the fact. I think we don't give people enough chances we just jump to conclusions.
ReplyDelete1. Benjamin Franklin said, "Be civil to all, sociable to many, familiar with few, friend to one, enemy to none." (“civil” here means courteous or polite)
ReplyDeleteI enjoy this quote because I believe it's an advice to go by. Sometimes we get lost meeting so many people or forget to be a polite person to strangers we don't know. I believe just having manners should allow you to be polite with everyone. And I don't honk we should be friends with everyone we meet, but just keep a positive peace within those type of relationships. I think keeping a small circle and creating spectacular bonds with an individual friend could really build something you can't put a price on. You put trust and loyalty with someone special and also you don't keep bad blood with those who start to become your enemies or those people who don't like you. Just kill them with kindness and focus on people who love you.
Benjamin Franklin's statement "Be civil to all, sociable to many, familiar with few, friend to one, enemy to none." stood out the most to me. I think there is so much truth in this quote. Having had a lot of life lessons I personally believe it is more important to have smaller circles of friends who are truly invested in the relationship than a large circle of friends who are not. Also, while it is important to treat others fairly and as kind as possible and to have a friendly disposition, it is not always the best option to consider everyone a "friend". The term friend means a lot to me. I believe friends are important people in our lives who have large impacts on our choices and opinions. So to keep those who you trust near and those who you do not far is essential in having rich relationships. Also, it is important to not have enemies. This doesn't mean that we have to like everyone, I believe, it means not to burn bridges or create unnecessary friction with people that can impact our lives in a negative way.
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